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Friday, July 15, 2005

What to Get Your Girlfriend for Valentine/Birthday/Anniversary

Most attached guys I know face this problem: What to get your wife or girlfriend for her birthday? Or Valentine’s Day? Or your anniversary? Oh, that’s easy, some of you might say. Get her some flowers and chocolates. Sure, that works fine the first few times, but after a few years of courtship (assuming your girlfriend stays with you that long) you start running out of ideas.

There are those who never face this problem. That’s because they never buy their girlfriends anything. Why? I dunno. I suppose there’s a few reasons. Boyfriend is an ultra-cheapskate. Guy has a incredible ability to forget every important date (Most likely to get dumped). Girlfriend has an intense phobia against receiving gifts (OK, this one only exists in men’s dreams).Couple are hard-pressed for money and are saving for more important things together (OK, in this case, it be acceptable).

But for the rest of us, we have to shop around for good gifts 3 to 4 times a year (including Christmas for some people). But first let me say that I’m the type that loves shopping for gifts for my wife, heck, I just love shopping. I find it a thrilling challenge to seek out a really hard-to-get or ingenious present that will absolutely delight her. It’s not always an expensive item, sometimes a small meaningful gift can mean far more than an expensive one.

But for those prone to frantic, last minute shopping at the nearest petrol station mini-mart, here are some semi-precious tips, some I picked up myself, some I learnt from other masters:

Don’t buy her gift vouchers – The first unwritten rule. I don’t really know why this is so, but I adhere by it. It’s probably because the recipient can immediately tell how much you spent on it (and whether she thinks you’re a spendthrift or a cheapskate). The other problem might be it doesn’t take any effort to shop for it. You just walk into the store and buy it. So unless you’re buying RM1000 worth of vouchers at Salvatore Ferragamo which is her all time FAVOURITE store, remember this rule.

Listen to her – Right I know this might be like asking most guys to donate a liver, but believe it or not, most girls like to talk (yes, believe it or not). And while they talk about everything and anything under the sun, they will also talk about what they like, or suddenly let slip something they really wanted to have (you know, like a Freudian slip). To catch what she said, remember it, six months later presenting it to her (after scouring half the city) will score more marks with her than you will ever hope for. Remember that pearl pendant Ross bought for Rachel’s birthday in the first season of Friends? I have done it a few times, (opportunities like this don’t often come), but you’ll have to ask my wife about it.

Get it while you can – Sometimes you see something you know she will love, get it immediately (if the price is right) even though her birthday is 5 months away. Keep it in a secret place (just don’t forget where) then you can be assured of an awesome gift when the time comes. I once had a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity to buy this great collector’s edition of a Barbie doll (retail price RM200, I paid less than 20% of that price). Since the source was rather clandestine, that opportunity will never come again.

Decide first, then look – Make sure you know what you want to buy, or at least 2 or 3 possibilities, then go look for something that sells it. Don’t wander around Isetan trying to think of something, you’ll get more misses than hits. Then as time runs out, you’ll start getting panicky. Decide what to buy, then go and get it. If you can’t find it, have a backup. If not, then you can panic.

Never tell her the price – the greatest golden rule. Hide your credit card statement. Better yet, pay cash (Remember folks, use Mastercard, not Visa). Keep receipt in safe place. Like, in a compartment in your car engine. Ahahaha. Never tell. Even if she asks, begs, cajoles, bullies. (actually if she bullies, you might consider your long term prospects with her…)

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  • Great tips...hope many (men) get the benefits here! I've given up on my hubby, but still wish he won't miss reading this!

    By Blogger Mama22Beas, at 7/15/2005 09:20:00 am  

  • coolz..for gals right..they will most probably tell the guys what they actually want and that guys can alwiz buy stuff that their gf wants..
    what about guys? how should a gal choose a present for a guy?
    it took me quite think of wat to buy for my bf during his bday...till now..i still hav no idea.he juz dun wanna tell me anything...sigh

    By Blogger Adeline, at 7/15/2005 10:55:00 am  

  • wah, you just saved many many guys out there. all hail Simon! ;)

    By Blogger Belacan, at 7/15/2005 11:18:00 am  

  • we never buy gifts. well, this year my hubby gave me a book. he says he's sorry for not splurging. it's ok with me as we're supposed to save coz we just bought a house. anyway, i'm pleased with the gift, coz i love books.

    but adeline's right. what do we get guys? his b'day is coming and i have no idea! he said not to spend on him, but i really want to. so how? any tips?

    By Blogger mudslinger, at 7/15/2005 12:02:00 pm  

  • my man needs lesson from you..muahahah.
    eh you can open a workshop liao =)

    By Blogger cyber-red, at 7/15/2005 12:30:00 pm  

  • I'm not attached *digs a grave and jumps in*

    By Blogger NSDS3HvLDjJd, at 7/15/2005 12:36:00 pm  

  • Thanks for the tip, Simon! Perhaps another post for the girls? Hehe, but your rules doesn't apply to me and neenee's one woh~! Haha!

    By Blogger Jason, at 7/15/2005 01:29:00 pm  

  • Wah liau...speaks like a pro. This only confirms my belief - all the good ones are always taken. If not, they're gay. Sigh.

    By Blogger anjali*, at 7/15/2005 01:46:00 pm  

  • Make a note of what dress size she she is and her cup size. Lingerie is always a good buy if you can manage to get the size right.

    Plus you get to chat up the chicks in the Lingerie section of Isetan when you go up and ask for their help to pick a nice one. :P

    By Blogger tigerjoe, at 7/15/2005 03:19:00 pm  

  • Aww.. Simon so sweet one ar? I think I should save this page and send it to hubby just before my birthday. Hahaha. And if you want to give gift vouchers, you might as well just give an angpow which brings us to the next rule #Never give her an angpow.

    By Blogger mumsgather, at 7/15/2005 04:40:00 pm  

  • are you trying to be the 'Hitch' of Malaysia? ;-)

    By Blogger Din, at 7/15/2005 05:48:00 pm  

  • Err...can you teach my atm ah? He thinks the latest edition, most functional kitchen gadgets that costs and arm and leg is the ideal gift. And that includes, the most expensive, imported, sharpest sushi knife! LOL! Quite useful oso la, can use when gaduh.

    By Blogger 5xmom, at 7/15/2005 10:55:00 pm  

  • Courtesy of 5xmom to the Winner of the Neohphyte of the year:

    Web Page URL:

    The Page Rank: 4 /10 - the page rank is 4 from 10 possible points

    Congrats, indeed.

    By Blogger 5xmom, at 7/16/2005 12:52:00 am  

  • Now only you tell ah? You should tell us much earlier. You see, now my gf left me baru tell. What to do, huh?

    By Blogger kiasi, at 7/16/2005 01:05:00 am  

  • gift for gf.... er, anniversary?! never happen to me. Too muchhh..

    A simple rule i think is to give her some affordable surprises as gifts, well.. affordable means something she can 'afford' to accept with smiles but not over-outrageous. Of course, something we guys can afford (in monetary term) as well.

    By Blogger keng 坑, at 7/16/2005 01:09:00 am  

  • mama22beas - yeah, send it to him. BOLD the parts you want to emphasize!

    belacan - maybe you should 'given' your wife Astro for her b'day!

    mudslinger & adeline - what to get for guys? Hmmm... maybe that can be another blog topic... watch this space... :)

    cyber-red - send him this link la! Then drop HEAVY hints!

    nsds3 - but i thot you got 'project' now? :)

    jason - why? what did u get her aa?

    anjali - no i dun think, so many guys out there... straight ones i mean...

    tiger - very sneaky...!

    MG - give angpow?! Chinese New Year izzit?

    din - i say, that one not a bad idea la. Can make some side money!

    5xmom - waa, angry women with knife VERY dangerous, la. Anyway, PR4 nothing la, SOMEBODY got PR5...

    kiasi - but when you've a new gf, you know what to do now, right?

    keng - sometimes those gifts are the best...

    By Blogger Simon, at 7/16/2005 09:23:00 am  

  • I did the 'Freudian slip' before =P And I got a huge surprise on Valentine's this year from the BF.

    By Blogger wildcharm, at 7/16/2005 08:10:00 pm  

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